Tuesday, May 7, 2013

March/April Happenings

A few of the things we've done recently:

 We went to the BYU Spring Football Game.   It was a long day of driving, but so nice to have a day to just talk & be together.
 We met Nan and her kids and the stadium and enjoyed the game together





 Then hung out with some pretty cool football players who were nice enough to take time to meet their fans.


 Then we drove to Grandma and Grandpa Hahn's, had a picnic at a park with them, and played and slept for a while at their home.  It is always so relaxing there.



Baths & Jammies
Goofiness




This month we said goodbye to 5 missionaries - Josh, HeatherJane, Dustin, Peyton, and Morgan.  One Sunday we got to attend 3 sacrament meetings where three missionaries spoke.  I felt so grateful that my children have such good friends who are good examples for them.



What else have we been up to?  Well....sometimes Bob gets bored


I have no explanation for those pictures.  But they make me laugh.  Out loud.  They capture perfectly how goofy Bob and our children get in the evenings.  

Really, Bob's been so busy.  He had knee surgery this last month, as well has going to the dermatologist to have several pre-cancerous spots frozen off his hands, arms and face.  

He made a basketball backboard/hoop for Zach's birthday.  Zach got to help him build and paint it, and Bob and the older boys worked together to mount it on our house.  



Mallory and I had a "Glitter & Glamour" Mother Daughter party with her activity days group



iFamily ended and they had an end of the year showcase evening.  My camera batteries wouldn't charge, so I have no pictures, but it was a neat evening with performances from the jumprope class, clogging class, choir, orchestra, acting, and others.  There were art and math displays as well.  I sat there and felt so grateful for the opportunities and friendships we've had as a part of iFamily.  I'm especially grateful considering how hard this last year was for me.  I was in survival mode, but thanks to many ambitious friends my children got to be involved in wonderful classes - art, economics, acting, jumprope, clogging, math, orchestra, ballet, ballroom, gymnastics...and more.  Wow.

We got new baby chicks.  They are almost halfway full grown now.  I love these pictures to remind us of how cute the brand new little fuzzballs are when they first arrive.






Jace, Courtney, and Spencer are involved in a Shakespeare Play, Two Gentlemen of Verona
Tonight is opening night, and we're all so excited!



Bob's parents finished their mission in Mongolia, and they've been up to visit twice lately.  It is so great to see them again, we sure missed them.  We are grateful for their examples of service and hard work!  They have amazing stories about Mongolia.  

Aliysa got a job working at Journeys (a center for developmentally delayed children), and Jace got a job working at Broulim's grocery store.  Both great jobs for each of them.  

Aliysa is going in for surgery for an umbilical surgery this month.  Then 6 weeks of not lifting anything heavier than 5 lbs.  We're not sure how well that will work with her job - she often is lifting clients into wheelchairs, etc.  We'll see.

What else?  Bob bought me beautiful flowers this month (our camera was in Utah then).  He is such an amazing husband, such a strength in my life - a rock that I can depend on emotionally and spiritually.  Can't imagine life without him.  I'm so grateful for a happy marriage with my best friend.

I'll try to stay updated more often.  Weekly is my goal. 




Saturday, May 4, 2013

A real schedule

I have been putting my favorite quotes into a schedule so that I can be inspired as I go through my day, and remember the things that matter most.  This is kind of long, but I just couldn't leave any of these out.  Enjoy!


My Day
“A good woman knows that she does not have enough time, energy, or opportunity to take care of all of the people or do all of the worthy things her heart yearns to do. Life is not calm for most women, and each day seems to require the accomplishment of a million things, most of which are important. A good woman must constantly resist alluring and deceptive messages from many sources telling her that she is entitled to more time away from her responsibilities and that she deserves a life of greater ease and independence. But with personal revelation, she can prioritize correctly and navigate this life confidently.  The ability to qualify for, receive, and act on personal revelation is the single most important skill that can be acquired in this life.”

-Julie B. Beck, And upon the Handmaids in Those Days Will I Pour Out My Spirit”


Personal Gospel Study
"The men who have done the most for God in this world have been early on their knees. He who fritters away the early morning, its opportunity and freshness, in other pursuits than seeking God will make poor headway seeking Him the rest of the day. If God is not first in our thoughts and efforts in the morning, He will be in the last place the remainder of the day."
                                                                                                                                                -E.M. Bounds

The only way you can be sure that a busy schedule doesn’t crowd out scripture study is to establish a regular time to study the scriptures. I have found that the beginning of the day and the end of the day are mine. Those are times I can usually control. So my pattern since I was a boy has been to read my scriptures at the beginning and end of the day. I read the Book of Mormon many times before I was 18 because of that pattern.  When I am in situations where I break out of the pattern, it’s hard on me. Once you get used to regular scripture study, you miss it if you don’t have it. It’s like food—you have to have it. I know that I need the scriptures like I need food. I don’t miss a regular meal, and I don’t miss regular scripture study.”                                                                                                                                                                   
–Henry B. Eyring

"My devotions gave the day its energy... It is proof that I remember Him, depend on His mercy, which is so thankfully new every morning. It is evidence that I trust Him. It is because my days are so busy that I have kept myself from the God-can-wait syndrome. I need my heavenly Father and so I seek Him early. Prayers are the wings of the soul. They bear the Christian far from earth, out of its cares, its woes and its perplexities, into glorious serenity." – Karen Andreola, Pocketful of Pinecones

“I know a good member of the Church who has a successful marriage and six beautiful children. She is trying to be the best companion she can be to her husband and the best mother she can be to her children. She is an effective Young Women leader in her ward. But sometimes she feels she isn’t good enough. She becomes discouraged and feels an emptiness of soul.
She came to me one day with her husband and described the powerlessness she feels at such times. She had discussed her concern with her priesthood leaders and especially her husband but had yet to find relief. I suggested that after her husband left for work and their children were in school, she find a place in her home and there reverently and humbly visit with Heavenly Father. I suggested that she express her gratitude to God for her blessings and then wait for His holy inspiration. She committed to do this daily.  Sometime later I received a letter from her. She said that as she went to her knees in those quiet moments each day and dropped her burden at Heavenly Father’s feet, He took her concerns away. She felt of her great worth to Him and learned more of ‘the healer’s art’ as He healed her soul.”                                                                
Opening the Heavens, By Elder Yoshihiko Kikuchi, Of the Seventy

“Mother was a great teacher who was diligent and thorough in her preparation. I have distinct memories of the days preceding her lessons. The dining room table would be covered with reference materials and the notes she was preparing for her lesson. There was so much material prepared that I’m sure only a small portion of it was ever used during the class, but I’m just as sure that none of her preparation was ever wasted. How can I be sure about this? As I flipped through the pages of her notebooks, it was as if I were hearing my mother teach me one more time. Again, there was too much in her notebooks on any single topic to ever share in a single class session, but what she didn’t use in her class she used to teach her children.”
Elder L. Tom Perry, Mothers Teaching Children in the Home

Family Scripture Study & Prayer
“Parents must bring light and truth into their homes by one family prayer, one scripture study session, one family home evening, one book read aloud, one song, and one family meal at a time. They know that the influence of righteous, conscientious, persistent, daily parenting is among the most powerful and sustaining forces for good in the world. The health of any society, the happiness of its people, their prosperity, and their peace all find common roots in the teaching of children in the home.”   L. Tom Perry, Mothers Teaching Children in the Home


Morning Chores & Meal Prep Time
Prayer, Scriptures, Dressed, Hair, Bed, Bedroom, Upstairs Zone, Trash/hamper/hangers, Laundry, Farm Chore
I make breakfast, start dinner, and do sprouts, kefir, juicing
“We should never be discouraged in those daily tasks which God has ordained to the common lot of man. Each day’s labor should be undertaken in a joyous spirit and with the thought and conviction that our happiness and eternal welfare depend upon doing well that which we ought to do, that which God has made it our duty to do.”  ­– President Joseph F. Smith

Breakfast
“Family mealtimes should be informal and cheerful occasions in which everyone feels welcome to participate in discussions. Where possible, this time should be free from other distractions. Such occasions can contribute to the unity and spiritual growth of the family.”     – Teaching, No Greater Call

After meal jobs, Prepare for School
Kitchen job, zone, brush teeth
“Mothers who know are nurturers. This is their special assignment and role under the plan of happiness.5 To nurture means to cultivate, care for, and make grow. Therefore, mothers who know create a climate for spiritual and temporal growth in their homes. Another word for nurturing is homemaking. Homemaking includes cooking, washing clothes and dishes, and keeping an orderly home. Home is where women have the most power and influence; therefore, Latter-day Saint women should be the best homemakers in the world. Working beside children in homemaking tasks creates opportunities to teach and model qualities children should emulate. Nurturing mothers are knowledgeable, but all the education women attain will avail them nothing if they do not have the skill to make a home that creates a climate for spiritual growth. Growth happens best in a “house of order,” and women should pattern their homes after the Lord’s house (see D&C 109). Nurturing requires organization, patience, love, and work. Helping growth occur through nurturing is truly a powerful and influential role bestowed on women.” –Julie B. Beck

Exercise
"Anyone who reads a newspaper or magazine is constantly reminded that proper diet, appropriate exercise, and plenty of rest increase our daily capacities as well as our life span. But all too many of us put off even these minimal efforts, thinking our family, our neighbors, and our other many responsibilities come first. Yet in doing so, we put at risk the thing these people need most from us: our healthiest, happiest, heartiest self. When they ask for bread, let us not be so weary and unhealthy that we give them a stone.
The issue…is accepting that we are worth the time and effort it takes to achieve the full measure of our creation, and believing that it is not selfish, wrong, or evil. It is, in fact, essential to our spiritual development.  We know that exercise gives almost instant relief from tension. We know that if we give up caffeine and sugar, stop smoking, and give up being workaholics we can relieve stress. … Some people think that someone else will take the responsibility- their parents, their friends, their spouse, maybe even Mother Nature. But if you don't take care of yourself, no one else will…"                                                                                                      
Jeffrey R. Holland and Patricia T. Holland, On Earth As It Is in Heaven, p.66

“The healthy man, who takes care of his physical being, has strength and vitality; his temple is a fit place for his spirit to reside.   It is necessary, therefore, to care for our physical bodies, and observe the laws of physical health and happiness.”
–David O. McKay, “The Whole Man”, Era Apr. 1952

“I have never in thirty-five years of practice treated a man or woman who has had a recreational hobby that involved regular large muscle exercise. And what’s more, I never will, because physical exercise provides the escape for pent-up emotional pressures. No classes in our universities compare in importance to the classes that teach people how to enjoy and partake of these necessary recreational activities.”
-Dr. Leonard Himler of the University of Michigan School of Public Health, a noted psychiatrist

School begins
“Let us never lose sight of the fact that education is a preparation for life--and that preparing for life is far more than knowing how to make a living or how to land on the moon. Preparing for life means building personal integrity, developing a sound sense of values, increasing the capacity and willingness to serve. Education must have its roots in moral principles. If we lose sight of that fact in our attempt to match our educational system against that of the materialists, we shall have lost far more than we could possibly gain."    – Ezra Taft Benson (The Red Carpet, p. 177)

Devotional
“Our children should be indoctrinated in the principles of the Gospel from their earliest childhood. They should be made familiar with the contents of the Bible, the Book of Mormon and the Book of Doctrine and Covenants. These should be their chief textbooks, and everything should be done to establish and promote in their hearts genuine faith in God, in His Gospel and its ordinances, and in His works. But under our common school system this is not possible.”                      
– Wilford Woodruff, Messages of the First Presidency, Jun. 8, 1888

Personal Gospel Study Time
“Do you want to feel the love of God more powerfully in your life? Do you want to feel more in tune with His Spirit? Do you want to have the heavens opened to you daily?  There is a way you can feel a daily renewal of God’s everlasting love and drink from “the fountain of living waters” (1 Nephi 11:25). It follows a pattern set by the Prophet Joseph Smith when he went to a grove of trees early one morning in 1820 seeking answers to his questions. I speak of a morning devotional time spent in prayer, meditation, and scripture study. If you have a devotional every morning, even if only for a few minutes, you will be deeply blessed. I know this to be true.”  Opening the Heavens, By Elder Yoshihiko Kikuchi

Education
“Charlotte Mason wrote, ‘Education is an atmosphere, a discipline, and a life.’ By identifying this three-fold aspect of learning, she claimed that as much as one third of education is the discipline of habit. She implored, ‘The mother who takes pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days; on the other hand, she who lets habits take care of themselves has a weary life of endless friction.’ This is because if we ‘fail to ease life by laying down habits of right thinking and right doing, habits of wrong thinking and wrong doing [cement] themselves [in place] of their own accord.’ We begin with an awareness of any repeated action becoming either a bad habit or a good one. The actions she wishes repeated (the good ones) become a mother’s endowment.” – Karen Andreola, Mother Culture

“The Lord and His Church have always encouraged education to increase our ability to serve Him and our Heavenly Father’s children. For each of us, whatever our talents, He has service for us to give. And to do it well always involves learning, not once or for a limited time, but continually.”   – Henry B. Eyring, “Education for Real Life,” Ensign, Oct. 2002, 14.

“My mother understood the value of teaching her children about standards, values, and doctrine while they were young. While she was grateful to others who taught her children outside the home at either school or church, she recognized that parents are entrusted with the education of their children and, ultimately, parents must ensure that their children are being taught what their Heavenly Father would have them learn. My siblings and I were quizzed very carefully by our mother after we had been taught away from the home to be certain the correct lessons were reaching our ears and shaping our minds.
I used to think some days as I ran home from school that I was through learning for the day, but this illusion was quickly destroyed when I saw my mother standing at the door waiting for me. When we were young, we each had a desk in the kitchen where we could continue to be taught by her as she performed household duties and prepared supper. She was a natural teacher and far more demanding of us than our teachers at school and church.
The scope of Mother’s teaching included both secular and spiritual lessons. She made sure none of us were falling behind in our schoolwork, which she would often supplement. She also would practice her Relief Society lessons with us. We, of course, received the unabridged versions found in her notebooks, not the abridged versions that had to fit in a single class period.”   -Mothers Teaching Children in the Home, L. Tom Perry, Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

 “And, verily I say unto you, that it is my will that you should…obtain a knowledge of history, and of countries, and of kingdoms, of laws of God and man, and all this for the salvation of Zion…”                                                                                                                                    – D&C 93:53

“It is a duty we owe to our children to educate and train them in every principle of honor and good manners, in a knowledge of God and his ways”       –Brigham Young

Pray for and Love Each Child
“Motherhood isn’t about doing things, it’s about nurturing children” – unknown

“I know of a mother who used her nurturing power to strengthen and bless a son and bring him back to Church activity. At age 18 the son announced that he did not intend to serve a mission. His activity in the Church dwindled. But the mother had faith, and she was a powerful nurturer. Every morning at 4:00 a.m., when her son got up to go to work, the mother arose at the same hour. She lovingly prepared a breakfast for him and packed a large lunch that he could take with him. She sat with him while he ate his breakfast and listened as he talked through his struggles in those dawn hours. This went on month after month for more than a year. Then one morning the son told his mother he was going to make the changes necessary to qualify to serve a mission. She listened morning after morning as he talked about his feelings and challenges, encouraged him as he met with the bishop, and fed him at her table in her consecrated home. Eventually her son received a mission call. He served an honorable mission and continued into temple marriage and faithful fatherhood. He later said of the mighty change that took place in his heart: “I could not resist the love of my mother. The pull she had on my spirit during those reflective early morning breakfasts was too powerful to resist.” – Julie B. Beck

 “My plea—and I wish I were more eloquent in voicing it—is a plea to save the children. Too many of them walk with pain and fear, in loneliness and despair. Children need sunlight. They need happiness. They need love and nurture. They need kindness and refreshment and affection. Every home, regardless of the cost of the house, can provide an environment of love which will be an environment of salvation.”
- President Gordon B. Hinckley
12:00
Lunch & clean up
“Picture a family gathering around a table to eat, talking about the gospel, talking about the sacrament meeting speakers and messages, talking about the current Ensign or New Era, talking about school with all of its ramifications, talking about general conference, talking about the Sunday School lessons, listening to good music, talking about Jesus Christ and his teachings. The list could be expanded. Not only parents, but all family members would be wise to listen at the table carefully, making certain that each person present has ample opportunity to participate. To have a time when the family meets at the kitchen table may take considerable adjustment and careful planning, but what could be of more importance than the unity of the family, the spiritual growth of the family, the bridges built between members of a family as they talk, listen, and respond, all surrounded by love? Our major success is simply trying—over and over.”
– LeGrand R. Curtis, Apr 1995 General Conference

Housework
Kitchen Jobs, Brush Teeth, Zones, Floors, Deep Clean Jobs, Service
President David O. McKay taught:  “The home is the first and most effective place for children to learn the lessons of life: truth, honor, virtue, self-control; the value of education, honest work, and the purpose and privilege of life. Nothing can take the place of home in rearing and teaching children, and no other success can compensate for failure in the home.”  
(Family Home Evening Manual 1968–69, p. iii.)

“We earnestly call upon members of the Church everywhere to clean up and beautify their homes, surroundings, farms, and places of business.  Our homes and our buildings are showcases of what we believe. They should be attractive and give every indication of cleanliness, orderliness, and self-esteem.  We urge that this improvement begin immediately and that procedures be established for maintaining our homes, buildings, and surroundings so that they always bespeak the high standards of the Church which we embrace.” –First Presidency, 1974


Make Our Home Sacred
In the Bible Dictionary we read, “Only the home can compare with the temple in sacredness.”

Quiet Time, Naps, Free Time, Outside Time
“I encourage you children of the Church to find quiet times to think and to talk to Heavenly Father. Quiet time can be reading, painting, fishing, or building a fort outside. You don’t have to be alone; you can have friends or family with you. As you spend time away from television and computer games, you will develop your relationship with Heavenly Father, and you will learn that the Church is true.” –Elder R. Conrad Schultz, Friend to Friend: “Quiet Times”, Nov. 2003 Friend

My Study Time
German, Web Design, Parenting Books, Piano, Family History
“Develop some intellectual curiosity. If you have it, you will never be bored. If you haven't, cultivate it, hold fast to it. Never let it go. To the intellectually curious, the world will always be full of magic, full of wonder. You will be interesting to your friends, to your spouse, and a joy to your children. You will be alive to all the wonderful possibilities of this world.”
– Marjorie Pay Hinckley

Snack Time
“What need additional emphasis are the positive aspects--the need for vegetables, fruits, and grains, particularly wheat. In most cases, the closer these can be, when eaten, to their natural state-- without overrefinement and processing--the healthier we will be. To a significant degree, we are an overfed and undernourished nation digging an early grave with our teeth, and lacking the energy that could be ours because we overindulge in junk foods. We need a generation of young people who, as Daniel, eat in a more healthy manner than to fare on the "king's meat"-- and whose countenances show it.”
–Ezra Taft Benson , In His Steps, BYU Speeches of the Year, March 1979

Enjoy My Family
“…What can you do, as a young mother, to reduce the pressure and enjoy your family more?
First, recognize that the joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction.
Second, don’t overschedule yourselves or your children. We live in a world that is filled with options.  Families need unstructured time when relationships can deepen and real parenting can take place. Take time to listen, to laugh, and to play together.
Third, even as you try to cut out the extra commitments, sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well, and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children. … don’t allow yourself to be caught up in the time-wasting, mind-numbing things like television soap operas or surfing the Internet. Turn to the Lord in faith, and you will know what to do and how to do it.
Fourth, pray, study, and teach the gospel. Pray deeply about your children and about your role as a mother.”                    
–M. Russell Ballard

Be Patient, Kind, and Christlike
I will begin with Ruth May Fox, who was a Young Women general president many years ago. … Ruth married and had 12 children. She shared her firm testimony with her children and taught gospel lessons while she worked beside them, but she admitted that her older children sometimes received harsh discipline because she had a quick temper and she did not always “count [to] ten”  when she was provoked. She worked hard to master this weakness and came to be known for her kind heart and service to others.” – Julie B. Beck, Remembering, Repenting, and Changing, Apr 2007

“In our homes, we should practice how to treat others. As Goethe said so well, “If you treat [an individual] as he is he will stay as he is, but if you treat him as if he were what he [could] be and [might] be, he will become what he ought to be.”
–Elder LeGrand Curtis, Around the Table, Feb 1996

Focus On The Atmosphere I Want to Have in My Home
 “There is an interesting scripture in Alma: “… behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise.” (Alma 37:6.)  So here is a Relief Society sister, a lovely mother, with a spoon and a bowl, with an apron and a broom, with a pie tin, a mixer, a cookie cutter, and a skillet, with a motherly gesture, with patience, with long-suffering, with affection, with a needle and thread, with a word of encouragement, with that bit of faith and determination to build an ideal home. With all of these small things you and the Relief Society can win for yourselves, and for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and for the Lord, the strength and power of a family knit together, sealed together for time and for all eternity; a great army of men, … all to be strengthened by a handmaiden of the Lord who really cares.”   Begin Where You Are—At Home , Elder Boyd K. Packer, Of the Council of the Twelve
 “Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction, less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know are willing to live on less and consume less of the world’s goods in order to spend more time with their children—more time eating together, more time working together, more time reading together, more time talking, laughing, singing, and exemplifying. These mothers choose carefully and do not try to choose it all. Their goal is to prepare a rising generation of children who will take the gospel of Jesus Christ into the entire world. Their goal is to prepare future fathers and mothers who will be builders of the Lord’s kingdom for the next 50 years. That is influence; that is power.” –Julie B. Beck, Mothers Who Know
“Recently, in a stake conference, all present were invited by the visiting authority, Elder Glen Jenson, an Area Seventy, to take a virtual tour of their homes using their spiritual eyes. I would like to invite each of you to do this also. Wherever your home may be and whatever its configuration, the application of eternal gospel principles within its walls is universal. Let’s begin. Imagine that you are opening your front door and walking inside your home. What do you see, and how do you feel? Is it a place of love, peace, and refuge from the world, as is the temple? Is it clean and orderly? As you walk through the rooms of your home, do you see uplifting images which include appropriate pictures of the temple and the Savior? Is your bedroom or sleeping area a place for personal prayer? Is your gathering area or kitchen a place where food is prepared and enjoyed together, allowing uplifting conversation and family time? Are scriptures found in a room where the family can study, pray, and learn together? Can you find your personal gospel study space? Does the music you hear or the entertainment you see, online or otherwise, offend the Spirit? Is the conversation uplifting and without contention? That concludes our tour. Perhaps you, as I, found a few spots that need some “home improvement”—hopefully not an “extreme home makeover.” – Gary E. Stevenson, Sacred Homes, Sacred Temples, Apr 2009
5:00
Joyful Kitchen Time
Dinner on, meal prep checklist, dog fed & out, zone zips everyone clean & ready for dinner
“Let us make our kitchens creative centers from which emanate some of the most delightful of all home experiences”         
– Barbara B. Smith, (former general president of the Relief Society)

6:00
Dinner
“As a young mother I did not fully understand my power as a nurturer. Though we were a busy family, I considered everyone’s presence at dinnertime nonnegotiable. It was our most consistent gathering time, and everyone planned to eat together before going on to other activities. I learned of the influence of my nurturing when our youngest daughter wrote in a college paper: “Dinner in our home was not just an eating ritual, but a special time for the family to communicate and to share our thoughts and stories of the day. … We often sat together for over an hour as we savored the conversation as much as the food.”

I thought I was just cooking casseroles and soup. But I had created the venue, the reason to gather. Because I prepared a meal to share with my family, something special happened. It was a simple process, and our style changed with the ages of our children. When they were young we could discuss a picture from the Gospel Art Picture Kit or memorize a scripture. When they were older we asked more questions and shared experiences. Over the years our children grew and matured, and we loved each other.  Mothers, who are “primarily responsible for the nurture of their children,” can be a powerful force for strengthening families when they use mealtimes to gather loved ones. They follow the example of the Savior to calm, teach, and help their families remember important things as they feed, cultivate, educate, and rear at the consecrated tables in their homes.”   –Julie B. Beck

Be a true “helpmeet”
“..the greatest challenge facing Relief Society in our day is to assist the lovely wives of these hundreds of thousands of men to encourage their husbands, to make a heaven in their homes.”     
Begin Where You Are—At Home, Elder Boyd K. Packer, Of the Council of the Twelve

“We want to be ladies in very deed, not according to the term of the word as the world judges, but fit companions of the Gods and Holy Ones. In an organized capacity we can assist each other in not only doing good but in refining ourselves, and whether few or many come forward and help to prosecute this great work, they will be those that will fill honorable positions in the Kingdom of God. … Women should be women and not babies that need petting and correction all the time. I know we like to be appreciated but if we do not get all the appreciation which we think is our due, what matters? We know the Lord has laid high responsibility upon us, and there is not a wish or desire that the Lord has implanted in our hearts in righteousness but will be realized, and the greatest good we can do to ourselves and each other is to refine and cultivate ourselves in everything that is good and ennobling to qualify us for those responsibilities.” –Eliza R. Snow

“Elder Neal A. Maxwell expresses gratitude for his wife’s example in her thorough scripture study and says he learns much from their gospel discussions. She is a “more complete” Christian than he is, he explains; she has a high desire to serve and a low need for recognition, furnishing a good example for him and their children.”
Please pardon me for speaking of my precious wife, Jeanene, but we are an eternal family. She was always joyously happy, and much of it came from service to others. Even while very ill, in her morning prayer she would ask her Father in Heaven to lead her to someone she could help. That sincere supplication was answered time and again. The burdens of many were eased; their lives were brightened. She was blessed continually for being an instrument directed by the Lord.
I know what it is to love a daughter of Father in Heaven who with grace and devotion lived the full feminine splendor of her righteous womanhood. I am confident that when, in our future, I see her again beyond the veil, we will recognize that we have become even more deeply in love.” – Richard G. Scott, The Eternal Blessings of Marriage, May 2011 Ensign

Family Time & Evening Routine Together
Dinner hour, family time, no electronics, read with children, bedtime routines, “Scripture, Song, & Prayer”
“Husbands and wives in great marriages … focus first on the home and on helping each other with their shared responsibilities….Their dinner hour and the family time that follows become the center of their day and the object of their best efforts. They turn off electronics and forgo personal entertainment in order to help with household duties. To the extent possible, they read with their children every night and both participate in putting the little ones to bed. They retire to their bed together. As their duties and circumstances permit, husbands and wives work side by side in doing the most important work there is—the work we do in our own homes.” – Elder L. Whitney Clayton

8:00
Scripture, Song, & Prayer
“It takes courage to gather children from whatever they’re doing and kneel together as a family. It takes courage to turn off the television and the computer and to guide your family through the pages of the scriptures every day. It takes courage to turn down other invitations on Monday night so that you can reserve that evening for your family. It takes courage and willpower to avoid overscheduling so that your family can be home for dinner.”
-Courageous Parenting , By Elder Larry R. Lawrence of the Seventy

Retire to bed early
Elder Joe J. Christensen counseled: “Resolve to get adequate rest. Really follow the counsel of the Lord to “cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated” (D&C 88:124).

“Are you getting the rest you need, or are you habituated to going to bed late and sleeping much longer than your system really needs and thus missing out on some of the personal inspiration you could be receiving? Great value can come to you as an early riser. Years ago, President Marion G. Romney, First Counselor in the First Presidency, told me that after receiving his call to be a General Authority in 1941, he went to Elder Harold B. Lee for advice on how to be successful as a General Authority.  “If you are to be successful as a General Authority,” Elder Lee said, “I will give you one piece of advice: Go to bed early and get up early. If you do, your body and mind will become rested, and then, in the quiet of those early morning hours, you will receive more flashes of inspiration and insight than at any other time of the day.” 
President Romney said to me, ‘From that day on, I put that counsel into practice, and I know it works. Whenever I have a serious problem, or some assignment of a creative nature with which I hope to receive the influence of the Spirit, I always receive more assistance in the early morning hours than at any other time of the day. Following that counsel has helped me a great deal through the years.  You can have a similar experience in your own life. You can change, even if you consider yourself a “night person.” Experts say that you can set a new habit in twenty-one days. When it comes right down to it, it is a matter of strong resolve and “mind over mattress.”   -Joe J. Christensen, “Resolutions,” Ensign, Dec 1994, 62–67

Evaluate & Measure Your Success
“Good women always have a desire to know if they are succeeding. In a world where the measures of success are often distorted, it is important to seek appreciation and affirmation from proper sources. To paraphrase a list found in Preach My Gospel, we are doing well when we develop attributes of Christ and strive to obey His gospel with exactness. We are doing well when we seek to improve ourselves and do our best. We are doing well when we increase faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes, and seek out and help others who are in need. We know we are successful if we live so that we qualify for, receive, and know how to follow the Spirit. When we have done our very best, we may still experience disappointments, but we will not be disappointed in ourselves. We can feel certain that the Lord is pleased when we feel the Spirit working through us.  Peace, joy, and hope are available to those who measure success properly.

A revelation in the book of Joel states that in the last days, sons and daughters of God will prophesy and the Lord will pour out His Spirit upon His servants and His handmaids.  President Spencer W. Kimball echoed this prophecy when he said:

“Much of the major growth that is coming to the Church in the last days will come because many of the good women of the world (in whom there is often such an inner sense of spirituality) will be drawn to the Church in large numbers. This will happen to the degree that the women of the Church reflect righteousness and articulateness in their lives and to the degree that the women of the Church are seen as distinct and different—in happy ways—from the women of the world. …”  -Julie B. Beck

"We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives. We have to decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is comfortable for us. We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to prove something. We have to learn to be content with what we are." — Marjorie Pay Hinckley

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
--Henry David Thoreau